The Law or Relationship...

I was recently faced with someone who was brought up with the law of God but not much relationship with God, or atleast not that much relationship. Since walking with the Lord 8 years ago or so, I was taught relationship with the Lord. Not that the laws He has set before us aren't important, but it's through relationship that our hearts change and a "want to" attitude comes out.
In the Bible the Pharisees were all about the law. Jesus was not to impressed. I mean, He didn't like the fact that the Pharisees acted like they were without sin. Yeah, right! We all sin, in thought, mind and deeds. That's where the grace of God comes in, and the mercy of our salvation. It seems that those that live by law are judgemental, lack compassion and aren't that great to be around. That's my personal opinion and experience. I just don't think that is how our God wants himself portrayed.
Then you have the other end of the pendulum. God's grace and mercy and forgiveness. You have those that believe that just because we believe in God, and that's it, that were "good to go". That may be true, but the Devil believes in God also, but that doesn't me he is going to heaven. Then there is blasphemy against the Holy Spirit and in scripture it says, "anyone who commits blasphemy against the Holy Spirit will be blotted out of the Book of Life".
So I looked up blasphemy :
1 a : the act of insulting or showing contempt or lack of reverence for God b : the act of claiming the attributes of deity
2 : irreverence toward something considered sacred or inviolable

So this lends itself to some interesting things to ponder. One, are we hung up on the law of the Bible because that's easier to control and to control others, than to entertain the idea that God has laws to protect us, but is far more interested in a relationship with us. Second, isn't it easier to change bad habits with someone/our heavenly Father who is gracious, encouraging and when necessary pointing things out in love? I know it motivates me far more than someone who is judgemental, fault finding and "captain obvious".
I wonder how many marriages would still be together today if spouses did less finger pointing and more encouraging.

Just a thought...