Wednesday, December 12, 2007

Never fear being hated

Editor's note: The following commentary is adapted from an address by Rabbi Shmuley to his son Mendy in synagogue on Saturday, May 6, 2006.

Mendy, today is your Bar Mitzvah. As your father, I want to help inspire you on this momentous occasion with words that I hope will stay with you forever.

In your Torah portion, you read God's seminal command, "Be holy, for I the Lord your God am Holy" (Leviticus 19:2).

To be holy is to be set apart. The Sabbath is holy because its restfulness distinguishes it from the work days of the week. The Temple in Jerusalem is holy because its consecrated space is set aside for lofty spiritual pursuits.

If one is to be holy, Mendy, then one must be different.

When all the world was worshipping idols, carved from stone and sculpted from rock, Abraham affirmed the invisible Creator who hid behind the starry night. When all of Egypt enslaved an innocent people, Moses distanced himself from his royal upbringing by striking an Egyptian taskmaster who mercilessly beat a helpless slave.

In so doing, both these men exuded a preparedness to be hated for their righteousness. Abraham would henceforth be called, Avraham Haivri, the man who dared to stand apart. Moses would be forced to flee his native country, only to return and bring the mighty Egyptians to their knees.

What does it mean to be a Jew, Mendy? It is the courage to be different. Benjamin Disraeli, the celebrated British prime minister, expressed that difference in response to an anti-Semitic parliamentarian's derogatory reference to him as a Jew: "Yes, I am a Jew and when the ancestors of the right honorable gentleman were brutal savages in an unknown island, mine were priests in the temple of Solomon."

You now become a man Mendy, and you have a choice as to what kind of man you will be. Small men want to be loved. But big men are prepared to be hated. Small men tailor their actions to suit the multitude. But big men will do the right thing no matter how much it inflames the masses.

Abraham Lincoln was detested by both South and North as he fought for the highly unpopular cause of emancipation. Winston Churchill was loathed in Britain for speaking out against Chamberlain's fictitious peace with Hitler. And Martin Luther King Jr. was cut down by an assassin's bullet as he pointed out the injustices practiced against black Americans. No great man or woman has ever lived who was not prepared to be hated.

Do not the make the mistake on your Bar Mitzvah, Mendy, as you bask in the adoration of family and community, that popularity is virtuous. On the contrary, as you steel yourself to become a man, prepare yourself to practice justice whatever the consequences.

While the rest of the world will strive to be loved, you strive to be holy. Do what's right even it costs you friendship. Do what's virtuous even if it leaves you lonely. Seek to impress not your fellow man, but none but God alone.

How many Jewish students did I meet in my 11 years at Oxford who were afraid to be different, terrified to stand apart. They would arrive at the university with their yarmulkes and quickly take them off. They weren't just abandoning God, they were betraying themselves, displaying weakness and a desire to be part of the pack.

Remember, Mendy, when we traveled in an RV to Badlands National Park, in South Dakota? There was a terrible storm, and we saw hundreds of cows that herded together, out of fear, under the thundering skies. And that's what most people do, Mendy, as they confront that one great fear in life, that they won't be loved. The herd instinct is a reaction to the fear of being different, of being rejected, of being an outcast. The desire to be loved is so strong that most people are prepared to erase their individuality, obliterate their uniqueness, just in order to be accepted. Abraham Lincoln once remarked that the tragedy of being human is that while all of us are born God's original, most of us die man's imitation and copy.

There are kids prepared to start taking drugs just to win friends. There are teenage girls who are prepared to have sex with boys in the false belief that by delivering their bodies the boy will offer up his heart.

You be different, Mendy. Never look to be loved. Look to be holy. Don't look to be popular. Look to be righteous. Endeavor not to fit in, but to remain you.

The prophet Micah said it best: "What does God require of you? To act justly, to love mercy, and to walk humbly with God." Walk with God, Mendy, even when it forces you to walk without human company. Walk with God even when if feels, as did in Auschwitz, that God Himself has ceased to walk with you.

In my life, I have often made the mistake of thinking that being loved was more important than being holy. I always wanted to do virtuous things with my life, but I wanted to be known for those good things. And in my quest for recognition, I made big mistakes, like believing that Hollywood celebrities would be a proper way to promote Godly values. My need to be loved was too great, the desire for external affirmation too overpowering. I was flattered that famous people admired me.

Now I know that my error was simply to want to be loved rather to be righteous. Had I wanted to be holy, I would never have lent credibility to a rock star who made himself into an idol. Had I wanted to be holy, I would still have written controversial books like "Kosher Sex," to save marriages. But I would have paid greater homage to my detractors, in the knowledge that one learns far more from one's critics than one's fans.

Devote your life, Mendy, to being a Kiddush Hashem, to making God shine. Act compassionately, and you will make God glitter. Greet people with dignity, and you will make God sparkle. Give a homeless man a dollar, and you will make God shimmer. Control your temper, and you will make God glisten.

You have made me proud to be your father. But from today, you become a man. Be a big man, Mendy. Live for the big things that electrify the heavens and causes the earth to quake.


Just a thought...

Wednesday, November 21, 2007

Thanksgiving and Our Gratitude...

Lord, We Are Grateful

Lord, we are grateful for all You've given;
shelter and clothing, good food and health.
All these are gifts we rarely do treasure.
We are most wealthy, thanks to Yourself.

Lord, we are grateful for those who love us;
those we call family, those who are friends.
Loved, we can face the pressures life sends us.
Through those we cherish, Your love descends.

Lord, we are grateful for Your creation;
trees in fall splendor, dark stormy skies.
Nature reminds us of Your strong power.
Majestic beauty dazzles ours eyes.

Lord, we are grateful for Your rich mercy,
fresh as the morning, new every day.
Sin is forgiven. Guilt has been buried.
Gone is the debt we never could pay.

Lord, we are grateful that we can worship,
often and freely here in this place.
Harvest our praises, hear our thanksgiving
as we reflect on Your awesome grace.

~Rev. Greg Asimakoupoulos~

I really need to be thankful for all the Lord has bestowed upon my family. A daily reminder is always good : -)

Just a thought...

Tuesday, October 16, 2007

Philippians 2...Imitating Christ's Humility

1If you have any encouragement from being united with Christ, if any comfort from his love, if any fellowship with the Spirit, if any tenderness and compassion, 2then make my joy complete by being like-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and purpose. 3Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves. 4Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others.
5Your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus:
6Who, being in very nature[a] God,
did not consider equality with God something to be grasped,
7but made himself nothing,
taking the very nature[b] of a servant,
being made in human likeness.
8And being found in appearance as a man,
he humbled himself
and became obedient to death—
even death on a cross!
9Therefore God exalted him to the highest place
and gave him the name that is above every name,
10that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow,
in heaven and on earth and under the earth,
11and every tongue confess that Jesus Christ is Lord,
to the glory of God the Father.

Shining as Stars
12Therefore, my dear friends, as you have always obeyed—not only in my presence, but now much more in my absence—continue to work out your salvation with fear and trembling, 13for it is God who works in you to will and to act according to his good purpose.
14Do everything without complaining or arguing, 15so that you may become blameless and pure, children of God without fault in a crooked and depraved generation, in which you shine like stars in the universe 16as you hold out[c] the word of life—in order that I may boast on the day of Christ that I did not run or labor for nothing. 17But even if I am being poured out like a drink offering on the sacrifice and service coming from your faith, I am glad and rejoice with all of you. 18So you too should be glad and rejoice with me.

It seems to me that God is more concerned with us looking inward at our own sins, and less about pointing others out to them. Although, He does say that in love and encourgement, we are to help our friends "get back on track".
I believe the Lord knows that our circumstances may not change, but through Him our perspective can change. We begin to see others in our lives through Christ's eyes, with compassion, grace and mercy. The problem comes, when we are self rightous and do not understand that our sins are no better than our spouse, friend or co worker. We will be forgiven by Him, with the same amount we forgive others.

Search your heart and ask yourself, do I have areas of conceit, self rightousness in my life? Am I being a Pharisee? Ask the Lord to show you, He is loving and wants nothing more than restoration and to rid you of anything that will separate you from Him.

Just a thought...

Wednesday, September 26, 2007

40 Ways to Pray for our Children...

Get specific with these simple prayers for your child's character from Christianity Today.

One of the great privileges of parenthood is that we can ask God to work in the lives of our children. These 40 prayers can be offered as a 40-day cycle of prayer {patterned after Jesus' own 40-day spiritual retreat in Matthew 4} or simply used during the course of each day.

1. For the knowledge of God
Dear God, the Psalmist declares, "Be still, and know that I am God" {Psalm 46:10}. In their busyness, may my children have quiet moments in which they think and reflect about God in their lives.

2. For salvation
Loving God, the Apostle Paul reminds us that the Gospel "is the power of God for the salvation of everyone who believes" {Romans 1:16}. Help my children learn to trust in you early in their lives and remain faithfully committed to your ways throughout their lives.

3. For myself as a parent
Gracious God, fill me with sensitivity and insight that I may understand the best ways to guide my children so they may grow in your wisdom and love.

4. For parenting patience
Loving God, although family life is often hectic and busy, help me to listen with patience to the worries, troubles, and problems my children may have.

5. For kindness of speech
Gracious God, so many children have been deeply wounded because they have been the brunt of criticism, teasing, and taunting. May my children exhibit kindness in their speech. Let the words of Psalm 19:14 be true for my children: "May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight."

6. To recognize their mistakes
Dear God, may my children recognize when they are wrong and take responsibility where they are at fault. Give them a deep and sincere desire to put things right as quickly as possible.

7. For love
Gracious God, let my children follow the command of Jesus to "love one another" {John 13:34}. Let them reach out with love to all within their sphere of influence.

8. For spiritual stability
Oh God, in times of moral uncertainty and temptation, empower my children to exhibit spiritual stability. May the words of Joshua have a firm grip in their hearts: "You are to hold fast to the Lord your God" {Joshua 23:8}.

9. To help bear burdens
Loving God, let it be that my children are the ones who quickly reach out, helping to lift the burdens of others. Through my example, may my children understand the importance of fulfilling the call of Scripture to "carry each other's burdens" {Gal. 6:2}.

10. To be instruments of peace
Gracious God, may my children guide their thoughts, words, and actions by the prayer of St. Francis of Assisi: "Make me an instrument of your peace: where there is hatred, let me sow love; where there is injury, pardon; where there is doubt, faith; where there is despair, hope; where there is darkness, light; and where there is sadness, joy."

11. To celebrate humanity
Dear God, this world is filled with beautiful people, all of whom are your children. May my own children be free of discriminatory and judgmental attitudes toward others. Let them appreciate and celebrate the fact that people are red and yellow, black and white, tall and short, fat and thin, rich and poor, young and old.

12. For spiritual & emotional growth
Loving God, let my children be like Jesus who "grew in wisdom and stature, and in favor with God and men" {Luke 2:52}.

13. To be salt & light
Gracious God, may my children learn how to cooperate rather than compete, to respect rather than revile, and to console rather than condemn. Even in their limited circles of influence, may they be "the salt of the earth" and the "light of the world" {Matt. 5:13-14}.

14. For protection
Eternal God, as my children go out this day may your loving protection go ahead of them, be behind them, hover over them, and stand beside them. This day protect them from every danger, disease, and trauma.

15. For faith in times of difficulty
Dear God, whenever my children face trial, trouble, or fear, let them naturally turn to you for guidance and strength. May my children know this powerful promise of scripture: "The eternal God is your refuge, and underneath are the everlasting arms" {Deut. 33:27}.

16. To remember the marginalized
Dear God, create in my children hearts of love and compassion for those whom society overlooks. Let them understand the importance of this biblical command: "Remember those in prison as if you were their fellow prisoners, and those who are mistreated as if you yourselves were suffering" {Heb. 13:3}.

17. For growth in grace
Loving God, day by day and in every way, let my children "grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ" {2 Peter 3:18}.

18. For contentment
Loving God, let my children cultivate the same spiritual contentment as did the Apostle Paul, who said: "I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want" {Phil. 4:11-12}.

19. To be unselfish
Gracious God, give my children more love, more self-denial, more willingness to sacrifice for others. Let them understand deeply that it is more blessed to give than to receive.

20. For wisdom
Loving God, may your spirit be so present in the lives of my children that their thoughts are your thoughts and their ideas are your ideas.

21. To offer confession & seek forgiveness
Gracious God, may there be in my children no propensity for denial of truth and reality. When they err and do wrong, may they offer you confession and seek your forgiveness. Let them take comfort in your word, which says: "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness" {1 John 1:9}.

22. To be "clothed" in virtues
Dear God, may my children constantly and consistently be clothed "with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience" {Col. 3:12}.

23. For humility in victory & dignity in defeat
Dear God, life is made up of valleys and peaks, wins and losses. There will be times when my children will make important gains and other times when they will feel the sting of losing. May they have humility in their victory and dignity in defeat.

24. For appreciation of God's creation
Loving God, show my children how to love all animals, birds, creatures, and all green and growing things. Help them to cherish and protect your creation.

25. For gratitude
Dear God, let gratitude, praise, and thanksgiving continuously flow from the lips of my children. May they "give thanks in all circumstances" {1 Thess. 5:18}.

26. For the courage of convictions
Gracious God, convictions mean nothing unless there is the courage to stand up for them. May my children "be strong and courageous" {Joshua 1:6}, standing up for those treated unkindly and unjustly.

27. For emotional & spiritual strength
Eternal God, whenever my children feel the pain of rejection by friends or feel they are the objects of ridicule, infuse them with emotional and spiritual strength. May they always remember that you are the strength of the weak, the refreshment of the weary, and the comforter of the heartbroken.

28. To be joyful Christians
Loving God, bless my children with the spirit of joy. May they smile naturally, laugh easily, rejoice in your gifts large and small. Let the words of the Psalmist resound in their lives: "This is the day the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it" {Psalm 118:24}.

29. To be free from materialism
Gracious God, even in their youth let my children be free from materialism. May they enjoy their benefits, privileges, and material possessions without the constant clamor for more and more and more. And, should they be blessed with wealth in their adult years, may they know the importance of sharing and using their abundance to bless others.

30. For peace & justice
Eternal God, nurture in my children a love for the many people who live in poverty and misery. Arouse in their hearts a deep and abiding hunger for justice and peace.

31. To be filled with hope
Loving God, no matter what may befall my children, may they be so filled with hope that it prevents any despair from taking hold. With the Apostle I pray that you, "the God of hope" {Romans 15:13}, will fill them with all joy and peace.

32. For perseverance
Dear God, keep my children from becoming impatient and quitting prematurely. Develop within them endurance and perseverance so that when faced with major challenges and crises they do not easily give up. Let my children be "joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer" {Romans 12:12}.

33. For a passionate love of God
Gracious God, cultivate in my children a passion to love and serve you. May my children have the same kind of passionate love for you as did this Psalm writer: "I will praise you, O Lord, with all my heart; I will tell of all your wonders. I will be glad and rejoice in you" {Psalms 9:1-2}.

34. For generosity of spirit
Loving God, instill in my children a desire to give of themselves. May they always be honorable in action, sincere in words, and gentle in their treatment of others.

35. To be forgiving
Eternal God, fill my children with the spirit of forgiveness. Whenever they are hurt, may they naturally forgive and thereby free themselves from the burden of resentment. May they take seriously this word from the Apostle: "Forgive as the Lord forgave you" {Col. 3:13}.

36. To have a teachable spirit
Gracious God, infuse in each of my children the awareness that the world is filled with teachers. May they see others as being sent by you into their lives to teach them to learn better patience, greater love, more compassion.

37. For the wise use of their talents
Loving God, thank you for filling my children with numerous gifts, talents, and abilities. As they mature, let them exercise wisdom in using their gifts to help others.

38. To be honest
Gracious God, let my children always exhibit honesty of conduct and honesty of speech. May there be nothing deceitful in what they say and do. Instill in them the awareness that life flows more smoothly when it is built around honesty.

39. To practice hospitality
Eternal God, may my children be open and affirming of all others. May they be the ones who reach out, embracing those who are left out or left behind.

40. To be faithful in prayer
Gracious and loving God, help my children to live lives punctuated by prayer. With the Apostle may they "pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests" {Eph. 6:18}. May they be persistent and powerful in their praying.

Let's not only protect our children in body, but in spirit as well.

Just a thought...

Tuesday, September 25, 2007

Psalm 139...

God's Omnipresence and Omniscience.

O LORD, You have searched me and known me.
You know when I sit down and when I rise up;
You understand my thought from afar.

You scrutinize my path and my lying down,
And are intimately acquainted with all my ways.

Even before there is a word on my tongue,
Behold, O LORD, You know it all.

You have enclosed me behind and before,
And laid Your hand upon me.

Such knowledge is too wonderful for me;
It is too high, I cannot attain to it.

Where can I go from Your Spirit?
Or where can I flee from Your presence?
If I ascend to heaven, You are there;
If I make my bed in Sheol, behold, You are there.

If I take the wings of the dawn,
If I dwell in the remotest part of the sea,
Even there Your hand will lead me,
And Your right hand will lay hold of me.

If I say, "Surely the darkness will overwhelm me,
And the light around me will be night,"
Even the darkness is not dark to You,
And the night is as bright as the day
Darkness and light are alike to You.

For You formed my inward parts;
You wove me in my mother's womb.

I will give thanks to You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
Wonderful are Your works,
And my soul knows it very well.

My frame was not hidden from You,
When I was made in secret,
And skillfully wrought in the (U)depths of the earth;
Your eyes have seen my unformed substance;
And in Your book were all written
The (days that were ordained for me,
When as yet there was not one of them.

How precious also are Your thoughts to me, O God!
How vast is the sum of them!

If I should count them, they would outnumber the sand
When I awake, I am still with You.

O that You would slay the wicked, O God;
Depart from me, therefore, men of bloodshed.

For they speak against You wickedly,
And Your enemies take Your name in vain.

Do I not hate those who hate You, O LORD?
And do I not loathe those who rise up against You?
I hate them with the utmost hatred;
They have become my enemies.

Search me, O God, and know my heart;
Try me and know my anxious thoughts;
And see if there be any hurtful way in me,
And lead me in the everlasting way.

To really believe all the Lord is saying in this, would be the freedom our Father talks about. Which in turn would bring the peace the Lord talks about, peace that surpasses all understanding.

Just a thought...

Sunday, September 23, 2007

Love your enemies....

Luke 6:27-36

[27] "But I tell you who hear me: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, [28] bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you. [29] If someone strikes you on one cheek, turn to him the other also. If someone takes your cloak, do not stop him from taking your tunic. [30] Give to everyone who asks you, and if anyone takes what belongs to you, do not demand it back. [31] Do to others as you would have them do to you.

[32] "If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? Even 'sinners' love those who love them. [33] And if you do good to those who are good to you, what credit is that to you? Even 'sinners' do that. [34] And if you lend to those from whom you expect repayment, what credit is that to you? Even 'sinners' lend to 'sinners,' expecting to be repaid in full. [35] But love your enemies, do good to them, and lend to them without expecting to get anything back. Then your reward will be great, and you will be sons of the Most High, because he is kind to the ungrateful and wicked. [36] Be merciful, just as your Father is merciful.

If you are looking for a nice, comfortable religion that doesn't call for too many demands on your life, makes you feel better when you're down, and will reserve luxury suites for you in heaven when you die, then you probably shouldn't try to be one of Jesus' disciples. He is demanding. He has the crazy notion that his followers should serve others rather than themselves. He expects them to show integrity when no one is looking. And he expects them to love. Not just people who only occasionally have a bad day. But enemies. Jesus expects you to love your enemies. Don't follow him unless you're ready to experience some discomfort.

The Blessings and Woes at the beginning of the Sermon on the Plain are radical. The poor, not the rich, will be rewarded. Then Jesus says to be happy when you are persecuted. "Rejoice in that day and leap for joy, because great is your reward in heaven. For that is how their fathers treated the prophets." (6:23). Now he goes a step further. We are to love our persecutors.

Love Your Enemies (6:27-28)
The world says -- rightly -- "Love your friends. Be loyal to your friends. Look out for your friends." Why? Friends will look out for you. Loving your friends is just smart. This also goes to loving your wife or your husband. As the Apostle Paul observes, "Husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself" (Ephesians 5:28). Loving your wife is a no-brainer unless you're self-destructive. Loving your friends and your spouse is just enlightened self-interest.

But it's altogether another thing to love an enemy, someone who has your disgrace or destruction as a goal. Notice as Jesus teaches his disciples in this passage he uses the familiar rhythm of Hebrew parallelism.

"Love your enemies,
Do good to them who hate you."

But Jesus says that we are not to just force a smile and mind our own business when we are hated and mistreated. We are to actively try to do good towards our attackers. Agapao is a rare word in Koiné Greek. It was developed almost exclusively in Christian literature to refer to the kind of love that doesn't serve itself, but extends itself for the sake of another. The other Greek words for love are eros, erotic love, philos, love for family, brotherly love, and stergos, natural affection. Agape love is really a different category of love that the world hadn't seen in action until Jesus came along and infected his followers with it.

Personal Enemies
Let's pause for a moment. Who are your enemies? I'm not asking who you hate? I'm asking who hates you, or despises you? Often they are the people close to us who have been hurt. A spouse or former spouse. A parent. A son or daughter. A co-worker at the job. An enemy of God who takes it out on you. Someone whose evil action you have exposed and is now out to get you. Who are your enemies?

Now what can you actively do to seek their good? That is the way Jesus is training his disciples to think.

How do I love my enemy? you ask with all seriousness. This isn't a matter of just thinking nice thoughts. We need Jesus to do a heart change within us, to put the kind of heart within us toward our enemies that was in God who sent Jesus to redeem and forgive a world full of despicable people. God-haters, vulgar, foul-mouthed, unfaithful to spouses, lying, cheating, stealing, selfish. The list goes on, and on describes us at our worst. Somehow God loves the people of Israel who thumb their noses at him again and again. He doesn't quit. They are unfaithful and are punished, but then God is at it again seeking to bless them. He doesn't give up. He has a heart of love toward the loveless. That is what we need to love our own enemies. We have plenty of strong examples from our God to follow.

So how do you do it? I don't think we wait for emotions of love. Rather we start with actions of love, and emotions may follow later. We start doing what Jesus taught right here:

Do good. When you find a way you can do something good for one of your worst enemies, do it. Not to shame him, but because you are trying to find it in your own evil heart to love him for Jesus' sake.
Bless. When you think of the person who is slandering you, and saying untrue and nasty things about you, find ways to work blessing into your thoughts. Speak a blessing out loud. When you are with friends, instead of complaining about your unjust treatment, go out of your way (actively) to speak well of your enemies. Why? To shame them? No -- though it will. But to find it in your own heart to love them.
Pray. Intercede. When you're praying, you probably pray for your family and your pastor, and your friends and family. Why don't you begin to pray and intercede for your enemies. Actively. Start to ask God to help them. Ask God to heal the hurts in their lives that are some of the motivators of their evil actions. Ask God to bless them and show mercy to them. Why? To shame them? No, in order to find it in your heart to love them.
And if you'll do good when you find opportunities, and bless when you think of them, and pray and intercede earnestly before the Lord, you'll find that God will begin to put love in your heart toward your enemies. Actual love. Sometimes loving emotions, too.

Think of one person who you feel has done you wrong and take a week to pray for them. I doubt they will change but your heart will toward that person.

Just a thought...

Sunday, September 16, 2007

The Tragedy Of The Enabling Parent...

The issue is that of strife in the family due to one parent taking on the role of the enabler while the other family members have stopped enabling. This is a very bad place to be. The addict will ensnare the enabling parent by insisting on his "help" no matter what the cost to the rest of the family or your bank account. You should know that if an addict can get his way, he will not care how it will complicate your life, marriage, or your relationship with your other children. Many addicts play one parent against the other in order to get their way. This is something you must realize and take steps to stop if it is already wreaking havoc in your life.The Enabling Parent causes strife and grief in the lives of many including their own. It is shown that there is much physical and emotional consequences on the enabler because of the addict. There is a physical, almost addiction, that an enabler gets from enabling. Like a runner who gets addicted to the endorphins, an enabler gets addicted to the relief of stress when "helping" out the addicted person from facing their consequences. This is usually short lived and the cycle continues.
The main theme on this subject is as follows:"I have a brother who is addicted to drugs, me and my mother have told my dad that he must stop enabling my brother's behavior. We have told him the dangers, etc.. but he refuses to stop enabling him because he says my brother would not have anyone else to help him and that he will not turn his back on his son". He pays his bills, gives him money and bails him out of jail every time! Can you please help me, my dad just won't listen? The father, the enabling parent in this situation, along with other family members are the only ones who are truly ABLE to do something since the addict himself will not.Here we have the mother and sister of the addict who have already realized that enabling is not helping the addict. The dad on the other hand is still caught in the web of enabling.What can the distraught family members do who struggle to get through to the enabling dad?The truth is always the best and it is no exception in this case. They must make sure they have faced the enabling dad with that truth. They must tell him how his behavior is ultimately pushing the addict on into deeper addiction by taking care of the addicted son's needs and worsening it by giving him the money or resources to get more drugs. They must tell the enabling dad that he is putting up a barrier that prevents his addicted son from facing consequences that we ALL must face as a result of our wrongdoing in this life. They must tell him that taking care of every need his addicted son has and is getting in God’s way and blocking his son from hitting rock bottom. The enabling dad is guilty of hurting his addicted son, yet he believes he's helping him.What can the father do if he wants to do right by his addicted son? Stop pushing the addicted son toward deeper addiction by giving him money, paying his bills, etc. Who is the enabling dad hurting in this saga? The answer is not only his addicted son, read on:1. He is hurting his addicted son by enabling him to continue his life of addiction.2. He is hurting his daughter by coddling and enabling the addict brother. The father is showing his daughter who is not addicted, that's it's ok to do wrong and not ever suffer consequences. He's showing the daughter that anything her brother wants, he gets. He is showing his daughter that he is a pushover and is naive and gullible in the extreme and is worthy of being used, abused and manipulated. 3. He is hurting his wife by CHOOSING the addict over his wife. Also, if there is abuse by the addict, he is CHOOSING to keep his wife in a dangerous situation. This says to the addict, that they are more important than the spouse and the abuse will esculate, perhaps until it's to late. . Many fights and much strife has abided in the households of those who have addicted children. In this situation, the wife sees what is going on and has stopped enabling her addicted son while the dad continues bending over backwards in order to supply everything his addicted son desires. The very focus of this family is geared toward the addicted child. 4. The enabling dad is hurting himself. We all have opinions and views of our family members, our views are based upon what they believe, do and say. In this situation, the father who is enabling is viewed poorly by his addicted son, even though he provides the son everything and denies him nothing. Make no mistake, the addict son views the enabling dad as weak and someone worthy to be conned and manipulated. The daughter sees her father in the same light. The wife views her husband the same as the daughter does. Yes, in this situation, the only one thinking he is doing his addicted son a great service is the enabling dad. Addicts Look For Anyone To Use While an addict has anyone taking care of the responsibilities that he himself should be taking care of, he will NEVER get better. Why would he? He has the best of both worlds. He does not have to work and he does not have to be RESPONSIBLE for anything he needs to live this life. He has already learned how to WORK his family over to such a great extent that he has no need to put forth an ounce of effort to take care of himself! Why else should the enabling father say NO to his drug addict son? Bad behavior such as: lying, stealing and manipulating is not something that we should allow from our family members. Just because we love them and they are family does NOT give them the right to use, abuse, and manipulate us.God himself and Jesus Christ our Savior does not want this for us. For us to by lied to, manipulated or used by a family member is not God's will for our lives!In fact, our family members should be the very ones who can be counted on to treat us with respect, loyalty, love and honesty. Most parents do not want to face the truth that their addicted child is blatantly using them and conning them. Even though they may have a sense this is what's going on, they choose to believe otherwise.Why does the enabling parent keep this up? At the heart of enabling, there is a feeling that just one more time of helping the addict will make all the difference ... What does this mean? The enabling parent feels that THIS TIME things will be different. "If I just help them out this one LAST time". I have known addicts who are so accustomed to having their enabling parent tell them, "This is the last time I help you" , that their response is a muffled "Yeah Right ". The response is as if to say, "I know you don't mean a word of it. You'll ALWAYS do what I want you to do, your actions so far have shown it.... so get off my back"! When an enabling parent gives out warnings such as the one above, this is like a joke to the drug addicted child. A running joke that is, because by this time the enabling parent's "warnings" have went on for years. Children LEARN from experience what they can get by with, and a drug addicted person is like a cunning, manipulative child who learns from watching his enabling parent give into his every whim. The enabling parent simply must come to this realization.Why does the enabling parent believe their addicted child and continue enabling them? The parent does this because they have been lied to all along by their addicted child. An addict will say to their enabling parent that they:1. Would stop if so and so would just... putting negative light on another person in the family 2. have a good lead on a great job 3. When they feel better then they can...!These words are intended to play on the sympathy of the enabling parent.This is just stringing the enabling parent along and the addicted child knows what the parent wants to hear, so that is what he tells him or her . When it gets to the point where neither the addict nor the enabler dance the dance anympore, this is a dangerous place to get to. Until the enbler comes to the conclusions that what they are doing isn't working for anyone but the addict, then everyone will suffer and not much can be done by the others.
Written by: Conquers In Christ

Are you enabling your spouse or child? If so, ask yourself the question why? Make a list of who this helping and who this is isn't, and then ask yourself the question again, why?

Hard times in our lives are like a sinking ship. If there are those who want to live, why spend your energy saving those who don't want to be saved. Possibly, letting them get the will to be saved, would be saving them after all.

Just a thought...

Wednesday, September 12, 2007

The Advantages of Fellowship

The Lord has been bringing this passage to me on numerous occasions. I guess that warrants some prayer and some understanding to it. Or atleast how I understand it. This was on a great website and I thought I would share it with you.

9Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work: 10If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up! 11Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? 12Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.
Solomon, in the previous section, related a story about "a man all alone" who had "neither son nor brother" (Eccl. 4:8). This man was working himself to death, with no heirs to enjoy his wealth. He was greedy and lonely. He himself didn’t even understand why he did what he was doing. He lamented: "For whom am I toiling?" Solomon concluded: "This too is meaningless––a miserable business!" (Eccl. 4:8). That episode about a "man all alone" leads to Solomon’s next subject: "Two are better than one" (Eccl. 4:9). Very early in the history of man, God declared: "It is not good for the man to be alone" (Gen. 2:18). "If it was ‘not good’ in Paradise, much less is it in a wilderness world" [Bridges, 90]. "Ties of union, marriage, friendship, religious communion, are better than the selfish solitariness of the miser" [JFB, 523]. Fellowship would have greatly solved the problem of greed and loneliness related in Solomon’s previous episode. If the man were not all alone, others would have been benefiting from his work, so his toil would not have been merely an exercise of greed. And also, his toil would not have seemed futile, since others would have also enjoyed the fruits of his labor.
Solomon, here in Eccl. 4:9–16, points out other advantages that are a natural result of fellowship. First, "two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work" (vs. 9). There are very few endeavors in life that are performed more efficiently with one hand than with two. In nearly everything we do, we must ask at one time or another, "Hey! Could you give me a hand with this?", or even, "Hey! Can I bounce an idea off you?..." One receives support, encouragement, ideas, an extra hand from a partner.
Then also, "if one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up!" (vs. 10). We can take this literally, as two who are journeying upon a road; we can also apply this to our spiritual life: "If one falls down, his friend can help him up." In our spiritual journey, also, "two are better than one". When we are tempted, we can receive from a godly friend the strength to overcome temptation; when we stumble, we can receive the rebuke of a godly friend to get us back on track. When Jesus sent His disciples out, He sent them "two by two" (see Luke 10:1). There is a special power in the prayers of two together, for Jesus promised: "Again, I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything you ask for, it will be done for you by my Father in heaven. For where two or three come together in my name, there I am with them" (Matt. 18:18–19).
There is also in fellowship physical protection from the elements: "Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone?" (vs. 11). I’m reminded in this verse about Jack London’s great Klondike stories. Two who would travel together had more than twice the chance of survival in the frozen north. The two would sleep under the same blanket to keep warm. Also, the presence of two would keep the wolves away at night. In our heated houses, this advantage is largely lost these days. However, the final advantage in fellowship mentioned here does hit home: "Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken" (vs. 12). It is a wicked world out there. There is safety in numbers. Two can walk in safety where one alone would be open to attack. A bond of three together is all the more stronger. So, indeed, we see the wisdom of God in advocating fellowship with one another.

Are you in fellowship with others? Or are you a lone ranger, you know, doing your own thing?
The word of God is not only for Him to tell us past events or how He feels about us, but it is a map as to how to live our lives so that even in the midst of hardship, we will not be tempted to walk away.

Just a thought...

Sunday, September 9, 2007

He's Waiting....

Dear Friend,
How are you? I just had to send a note to tell you how much I love you and care about you.
I saw you yesterday as you were talking with your friends. I waited all day, hoping you would want to talk with Me also. As evening drew near, I gave you a sunset to close your day and a cool breeze to rest you-and I waited. You never came. Oh, yes, it hurts Me-but I still love you because I am your Friend.
I saw you fall asleep last night and longed to touch your brow, so I spilled moonlight upon your pillow and face. Again I waited, wanting to rush down so we could talk. I have so many gifts for you! You awakened late and rushed off to work. My tears were in the rain.
Today you looked so sad-so all alone. It makes My heart ache because I understand. My friends let Me down and hurt Me many times, too, but I love you.
Oh, if you would only listen to Me. I love you! I try to tell you in the blue sky and in the quiet green grass. I whisper it in the leaves on the trees and breathe it in the colors of flowers. I shout it to you in mountain streams and give the birds love songs to sing. I clothe you with warm sunshine and perfume the air with nature scents. My love for you is deeper than the ocean and bigger than the biggest want or need in your head. Oh, if you only knew how much I want to walk and talk with you. We could spend an eternity together in heaven.
I know how hard it is on this earth; I really know! And I want to help you. I want you to meet My Father. He wants to help you, too. My Father is that way, you know.
Just call Me-ask Me-talk with me! Oh, please don't forget Me. I have so much to share with you!
All right, I won't bother you any further. You are free to choose Me. It's your decision. I have chosen you, and because of this I will wait-because I love you!
Your Friend, Jesus

Have you spent your time with Him today, He's waiting.

Just a thought....

Sunday, September 2, 2007

A Mother and Daughters Journey...

For the first time in my relationship with my oldest daughter, I find us both on a personal journey with our Heavenly Father and discovering His love for his daughters. To be on a similar journey with your child can bring you close together but can also bring about division.
" Our fight is not against flesh and blood, but the enemy of darkness". Easy to say and read, not so easy to remember and believe in the midst of a personal journey. I find myself feeling hurt because of my daughters desire to be with her dad, which then makes it's quick decent to anger. A part of me is so glad that she has this wonderful relationship with her dad, and another part makes me wonder why she treats our family and our home like a "pit stop". Like it's a place to just wait, until she can go to her dad's.
I have realized through much prayer and process, that I devalued our time as a family to her. That I made her time with her dad seem more valuable than our time with her. I try not to condemn myself for doing that, because I did it in hopes of making living in two homes as good and as easy as possible.
So now what? Well, I believe the Lord will make my path straight and His wisdom will come as to how to regain in her eyes, our family's value, my value as a mom and how to step out in authority to regain her confidence and security in her life.
One thing I know, is I don't have the answers. I don't have a game plan. All I know for sure, is that she and I need to lean on the Lord during this time, stay in His truth and not react on our emotions. In the end we will be closer to our Heavenly Father and each other in the process.

Just a thought...

Wednesday, August 29, 2007

Spiritual Warfare...

Spiritual Warfare: What is it?
Spiritual warfare exists in the unseen, supernatural dimension, where God is all-powerful and Satan is in revolt. As any Christian soon discovers, although spiritual warfare is unseen, it’s absolutely real. The Bible speaks of spiritual warfare in many places, but most directly in Ephesians 6:12, where Paul speaks of putting on the full armor of God:

“For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.”

Spiritual Warfare: How Do We Go Into Battle as Christians?
Spiritual warfare is an image that many of us would rather reject. However, since the Bible uses terms of warfare, it’s best that we accept God’s imagery, so that we’re properly prepared for real battle. As Christians, we’re going through more than a mere “struggle” on earth – and its seems that war imagery captures this reality better than anything else. Since it’s warfare, God instructs Christians to use a very specific set of armor and weapons in Ephesians 6:14-18:

“Stand therefore, having your loins girt about with truth, and having on the breastplate of righteousness; And your feet shod with the preparation of the gospel of peace; Above all, taking the shield of faith, wherewith ye shall be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked. And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the Word of God: Praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit...”

God’s list of weaponry is rather unique – these are “weapons of peace.”

Throughout the Bible, you will find examples of God’s weaponry in action. For instance, King Jehoshaphat sent out praise singers in front of his soldiers to cause disarray among the enemy; Joshua used singing and trumpets to bring down the great city of Jericho; and what better example of using faith in battle than David fighting Goliath with a slingshot. Of course, the lesson in all these examples (as in all spiritual warfare today) is that it’s only God who allows us to claim victory over evil!

Spiritual Warfare: Be Strong in the Lord
Spiritual warfare is a reality of the Christian life. But remember, we know the ending – our side wins. Since the Devil has already lost, he has nothing to lose in trying to take as many people with him in defeat. Therefore:

“Finally, my brethren, be strong in the Lord, and in the power of His might. Put on the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil.” (Ephesians 6:10-11).

So I leave you with these two thoughts: Are you ready to go to battle for your salvation? Are you ready to set aside all earthly idols to pursue your Heavenly Father, so that He can prepare you for a time such as this?

Just a thought...

Wednesday, August 22, 2007

Die Daily.....

"The Seeking Heart" by Francois Fenelon


Many think that "dying to themselves" is what causes them so much pain. But it is actually part of them that still lives that causes the problem. Death is only painful to you when you resist it. Your imagination exaggerates how bad death will be. Self-love fights with all of its strength to live. Die inwardly as well as outwardly. Let all that is not born of God within you die.

Bear your cross. Do you know what this means? Learn to see yourself as you are, and accept your weakness until it pleases God to heal you. Your goal is to be as patient with yourself as you are with your neighbor. If you die a little bit every day of your life, you won't have too much to worry about on your final day. Self-love brings great anxiety. No wonder you worry about the future so much. Be patient with yourself and allow your fellow Christians to help you. How completely will these daily deaths destroy the power of your final dying. Then your bodily death will be but a falling asleep. Happy are you who sleep this sleep of peace!

This writing really moved me. Why not try to die to ourselves, our self love and in general, the control we all so longingly want. What do we have to lose?

Just a thought...

Sunday, August 5, 2007

Breaking the mold...

I have been trying to understand a concept that I believe the Lord has brought forth to me, a 2 senior pastor church. It seems traditionally churches have had this mold of, Senior pastor, associate pastor,so on and so forth. How is that working for today's church and today's Christian's?
I believe that the area of reaching the lost is beating on Gods heart, and the discipleship is huge on His heart as well. How can one pastor have a gifting in both? I doubt there are many pastors that God has given that gift to, but also, the need is so great, how can one possibly try to do both.
What a blessing it would be to the body of Christ to be blessed with 2 pastors with exceptional giftings. How cool would that be to have one pastor who's gift and passion has been for the lost, and to bath them in Gods love, grace and mercy and to provide a great opportunity for that person to have a great foundation. Then, to have another pastor who's passion is for discipleship and mentoring, to create a community of willing hearts and maturing Christians to come alongside of those new into Gods house. WOW! I don't think it could get any better than that.
Not only does this provide a good "marriage" between newly saved and maturing Christian's but, it helps to keep the focus off one man (senior pastor) and keep the focus on our Heavenly Father.
Are we ready to break the tradition and mold of the church? Are we going to give the church body the best opportunity to not only answer the alter call, but to still be pursuing God in the years to come?
Let's step out of our comfort zone and let's see God REALLY move.

Just a thought...

Tuesday, July 31, 2007

Psalm 23:3-5

"3 He restores my soul. He guides me in paths of righteousness for his name's sake. 4 Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me. 5 You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies.You anoint my head with oil; my cup overflows."


As I've been on this journey or quest to know God, not just know, but REALLY know Him, this scripture has come to make sense. It's always been a favorite of mine, and I wasn't really quite sure why, until now.
To really live free, free of guilt, control or lack of control, fear, pain, addiction, etc, we have to know in our heart just how our heavenly Father feels about us. I mean, not just know in our head, but let the truth make the long 18 inch trek from our head to our heart. I have heard of many people that I knew long ago, that are being gobbled up by addictions, failed relationships, and the list goes on. Being someone who had an addiction 9 years ago, I know now that most of the reason I did what I did, was because of the insecurities I had and I learned early on that the best way to dull the pain is to not feel it. The Lord is really interested in healing the wounds of our past, bringing truth to the lies that we have come into agreement with, so that we can live free. Does that mean we will not face hard times? The truth is, that if we live in a fallen sinful world and bad things happen to good people. Does that mean that God is heartless and uncaring? Absolutely not! I don't have all the answers, but one thing I do know for sure, is that God gave His one and only son, to die a horrible death, to cover our sins, so that He could have a relationship with us and that we would have salvation. That doesn't sound to uncaring to me. I can't say I would give up my child for anyone in this world.
This scripture has allowed me to give up control to my heavenly Father. That I don't have to waste my energy or emotional well being in having the solution to mine or anyone elses issues. That He knows the end of life to the begging of life, Alpha and Omega, and He knows all. It is not our place to carry burdens. He is a loving Father and will never push His will on us, so He will let us carry them. But when we are ready to give our burdens to Him, He is loving enough to take them off our shoulders. Even when we walk through the valley times in life, He is always there, like a Shepard and his sheep. He will protect us, but in the process we need to seek Him so at the end of our valley time journey, no matter how it turns out, we come away with knowing Him more.
Living free, is living in complete faith and trust...are you ready?

Just a thought....

Sunday, July 29, 2007

The Law or Relationship...

I was recently faced with someone who was brought up with the law of God but not much relationship with God, or atleast not that much relationship. Since walking with the Lord 8 years ago or so, I was taught relationship with the Lord. Not that the laws He has set before us aren't important, but it's through relationship that our hearts change and a "want to" attitude comes out.
In the Bible the Pharisees were all about the law. Jesus was not to impressed. I mean, He didn't like the fact that the Pharisees acted like they were without sin. Yeah, right! We all sin, in thought, mind and deeds. That's where the grace of God comes in, and the mercy of our salvation. It seems that those that live by law are judgemental, lack compassion and aren't that great to be around. That's my personal opinion and experience. I just don't think that is how our God wants himself portrayed.
Then you have the other end of the pendulum. God's grace and mercy and forgiveness. You have those that believe that just because we believe in God, and that's it, that were "good to go". That may be true, but the Devil believes in God also, but that doesn't me he is going to heaven. Then there is blasphemy against the Holy Spirit and in scripture it says, "anyone who commits blasphemy against the Holy Spirit will be blotted out of the Book of Life".
So I looked up blasphemy :
1 a : the act of insulting or showing contempt or lack of reverence for God b : the act of claiming the attributes of deity
2 : irreverence toward something considered sacred or inviolable

So this lends itself to some interesting things to ponder. One, are we hung up on the law of the Bible because that's easier to control and to control others, than to entertain the idea that God has laws to protect us, but is far more interested in a relationship with us. Second, isn't it easier to change bad habits with someone/our heavenly Father who is gracious, encouraging and when necessary pointing things out in love? I know it motivates me far more than someone who is judgemental, fault finding and "captain obvious".
I wonder how many marriages would still be together today if spouses did less finger pointing and more encouraging.

Just a thought...

Friday, July 13, 2007

A Letter from Christ to you....

My Beautiful One,
I am so happy you have returned to Me; I knew you would. You look just as beautiful as ever, even more so, if that is possible.
How can I describe your beauty? If I compared you to my favorite mare, which is adorned with splendid jewels and golden tassels, a most elegant, valuable, beautiful and outstanding mare-even more then My description would be grossly lacking. You are unaware of the strength of your heart and the beauty I see within you.(Song of Sol.)
Your emotions are lovely to Me. Your cheeks, stained with tears of lovesickness, adorn you with great beauty, (Song of Sol.) On your neck are chains of gold; My divine character is being formed in you. You belong to royalty. You are loyal, true and resolute in your devotion to Me. You may feel weak and unworthy, but you are growing in grace and truth. I see the desire in your heart to please Me and that is beautiful. (Song of Sol.)
My darling, you are already so beautiful, but how much more beautiful you will be in the days to come! My Father, Comforter and I will bestow upon you our richest gifts and greatest virtues. (Father, Son and Holy Spirit) We will make you an extravagant worshipper, for you have been redeemed. You will become a woman of excellence who is fully devoted to Me and We will purify your heart. (Song of Sol.)
I want you to know that you are not a failure-one never fails until one fails to get up. Right now, because of what you have gone through, you view yourself as a sinner who sometimes loves God, but the truth is you are a lover of God who sometimes sins. Your true identity is that of a lover, not a sinner. Just like the lily, you are lovely, fragrant, innocent, pure and clothed in My splendor.
So, rest under the canopy of My love and dream of better days. Sleep well, most beautiful among woman. (Song of Sol.)

Forever Yours,
The Master Shepherd

"The Bride" by Rhonda Calhoun


This letter either makes you uncomforatble, you can't identify with it, or your fine with your heavenly Father speaking to you in that way. This begs the question for both men and women; because even though this letter says woman, men are also the bridegroom; how does this letter make you feel? Do you believe that your Father feels this way about you, or does it seem like He feels this way about everyone but you?

I believe our Father wants us to become intimatley vulnerable with Him. It's only then that He can begin to have a true relationship with us and in turn we can have a Christ like relationship with those is our lives.

Just a thought...

Tuesday, July 3, 2007

Just because you can, doesn't mean you should...

So last year about November the Lord starting showing me something in my life. He gave me this saying, "just because you can, doesn't mean you should". I thought, jeez what does He mean? Slowly He started unfolding this to me and by the end of it all, I was undone.
This is such a multi layered saying that it took awhile to wrap my head around it, but finally I have the head knowledge about it, now I just need to implement it into my life. It seems like I do implement it, and then oops I am back doing the same thing. Your probably wondering what "that" is.
I had many irons in the fire so to speak. I was giving alot of kids a carpool, my niece was living with us, my mothers health wasn't well, PTF, school volunteering, church volunteering, a consulting job on the side,working part time, the kids activities, my dogs exercise....well you get the picture. Some of these things are just part of life, but others were ones that I took on myself. The Lord also asked me, "why are you doing all that your doing?" I went through each item of activity on my list and asked myself, "why am I doing this?" At the end of it, about half of them were, because I know how to do it, it will help out other people and it brings some self worth to me. The Lord said,"but aren't I suppose to bring about your completeness", "shouldn't you ask Me, if I want you to take that on, after all I am the Jehova Jireh (the provider, YOUR provider)and wouldn't I know if you are able to take that on". I was a bit confused. I thought that if we are Christians then shouldn't we offer our help in every way. Then someone said to me, you know, if the Lord isn't telling you to step in and help and you do anyway, you may be stealing the blessing from someone else. I had never thought of it that way. I knew eventually what the Lord was getting to. Impart it was my relationship with Him, but also something in my past that was a wound, and that I somehow came into agreement with the idea that what I did was who I am.
At the end of it all and at the end of the day, I knew what my inner most motivation was. All those things and being needed by people fed me, my pride, made me feel like a good mom and gave me self worth. Yuk! All that fulfilled me for a little bit, but there was always something or someone that "let me down" or "not working out" and in turn, destroyed the self worth I was getting.
After wrestling with myself and the Lord, I realized that those things and people were fleeting but the Lord was where my identity was. That I was the one who Christ died for. I was called a child of God, a queen to the King. He will never leave us, nor forsake us.
I say all this, not to condemn people for helping others or helping where needed. The Lord does call us to help and gives us gifts to use to help others and bring about glory to Him. I think the questions that we need to ask ourselves are this: Is the Lord wanting me to do this, what is my heart motivation in it, am I doing this for accolades for myself or because I am joyful to do that which the Lord has asked me to do? It also brings to light, if my time is being consumed by other things, harmless as they may be, am I missing a great opportunity to partner in something the Lord wants me to?
Doing things anonymously is a great way to keep pride in check. Filling the gas tank for your spouse without telling them, sending money anonymously to someone you know needs it, giving to charities without letting them know who it came from...the deeds are endless.

"When you fast, do not look somber as the hypocrites do, for they disfigure their faces to show men they are fasting. I tell you the truth, they have received their reward in full.
"so that it will not be obvious to men that you are fasting, but only to your Father, who is unseen; and your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you.
Matthew 6:16&18

Just a thought....

Sunday, July 1, 2007

Take Refuge and Rejoice in the Lord....

"But let all who take refuge in you be glad; let them ever sing for joy. Spread your protection over them, that those who love your name may rejoice in you."
This passage has been with me awhile and so here I am to write my thoughts about it. When we are in times of trial and darkness, when we gaze upon our Lord, His word brings truth to our spirit and thus His light will shine on us. Our Jehova Rapha, the Lord who heals, desires to be the balm on our wounds. It's in His love for us that we can lean on Him and His wisdom during times of trial. It's only when we finally give up control and stop operating in our strength that we will move into a closer relationship with our heavenly Father and bring about the healing we all desperately want and need in our past. God loves a willing heart and will return in abundance.
Be glad during our trials, for we have our Heavenly Father to run to. As a parent we all have comforted our children when they are in pain, whether that be a skinned knee or hurt feelings. Even if they could've avoided it and we told them, we still comfort them, and so to does our heavenly daddy. Being grounded in grace,and understanding that God not only loves us but likes us. Not because He has to but He wants to.
It's in the journey that we find ourselves in reliance upon the Alpha and Omega, the all knowing Genesis 1 God. He loves when we walk in faith, and trust that He has our best interest at heart. So rejoice in Him. That He is always trying to find ways for us to know Him more, to be in more relationship with Him, even when we put Him on the back burner. Let's step out in faith, and leave our agendas aside for once, what do we have to lose?

Just a thought....

"but those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint."
Isaiah 40:31

Friday, June 29, 2007

For the Cause or Self?...

So I happen to catch this commercial or promo for a big concert for "climate concern", via television, web but also people will be attending this, lots of people. I find this absolutely ironic that people who are concerned for our changing climate would put on such an event that would use a ton of resources such as electricity, money and let's not forget the emissions that people driving there will be letting off. Just a question, since when is AL Gore an environmental expert and why is everyone willing to take what he has to say as the whole truth? He made a film, big deal. Since when is a film the whole truth, and not someones perception. Both sides can make great arguments.
I am all for keeping our world clean and being good stewards of our resources. I just thinks it's arrogant for us to think we know, for absolute that certain things are hurting our earth or to be absolute about anything concerning the earth. It's a bit like carbon dating, which by the way has flaws. Although the theory of radiocarbon dating is interesting, there are several inherent problems with the process. The first of these problems is the fact that the original ratio of carbon and radioactive carbon is unknown. The second problem is that the possibility of contamination of the sample over time is quite high. The older the sample the higher the probability of contamination. What this means is that using carbon dating to date very old samples is really quite impractical given our current level of knowledge and technological capabilities. So to are the arguments about car emissions. Why? A gallon of gasoline turns into 20 pounds of CO2. Average car drives 15,000 miles a year and gets 30 mpg (my estimates, might be a little high on the mpg estimate)15,000 miles /30mpg = 500 gallons of gasoline a year * 20 pounds = 10,000 lbs of CO2 a year. A cow produces up to 90kg of methane a year. Methane is over 20 times more effective in trapping heat in the atmosphere than carbon dioxide 90 kg * 2.2 lb/kg = 200 lbs of methane * 20 = 4,000 lbs of CO2 equivalent greenhouse gases. A car emits 2.5 times as much greenhouse gases as a cow. Amazing that a cow emits that much and yet gets very little talk in terms of environment impact.
Let's talk about those individuals putting these concerts on, and going on talk shows etc. I think we all know there is a need to get our use under control, if for nothing else, just to stop being so wasteful and self gratifying. I am all for going as natural, chemically free as possible, and trying to limit the amount of damage to our earth. If you want to make a difference, change the way you live and others will see and make changes. It's cheaper and it hold true credibility versus concerts and all the hype. But what is their real motive? If they really want to help, how about putting some of the millions they make and giving it ANONYMOUSLY to the cause or for further studies to use a more natural approach to energy or gas. I guess I don't see all of the people that stand up for these causes changing their lifestyles to support that which they say they support.
I guess my point is, if people truly have a heart to better things, they usually do it without looking for a pat on the back, for acknowledgment or for that matter the need for millions to know, " they support this cause". There are many ways to get out information to everyone to get them informed. It also isn't necessary to let them know who it's from. If the true intention is to get people educated, than educate. If the motive is to also elevate yourself I think that becomes evidently clear, as in this case. Just my opinion.
When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom.

Just a thought...

Making your past a present reality

When I think back, my mind takes me back to a time when things seemed a lot simpler. Why does the past always seem less rushed, less materialistic, less everything but rich in memories? Maybe it's because we were young and lived with our own perception of what the world was. I mean when I was 5 years old my biggest concern was playing with Barbie dolls. When I became a teenager I was consumed with being an adult, making my own decisions and getting out on my own. Now that I'm on my own and have been for 18 years +, I long for the days of the less paced lifestyle. The time to sit and day dream of what the future holds. To put it plainly; just have a relaxed spirit. A spirit that can sit, think and ponder without the distraction of my mind rushing to the grocery list, the kids activities and let's not forget the guilt trips we take ourselves on daily.I say all this not in sadness, but in a posture of wanting to obtain this lifestyle again. Not to live in a memory, but to put my foot down and say, "No more!", I will not concede to what the world deems a successful person. The commercial that is and will be forever embedded in my brain is the one that shows a linen closet with neatly folded towels and then the camera pans out to a beautiful outside seashore and it says,"your kids won't remember the neatly folded towels in the linen closet..."
Just a thought...
When I think back, my mind takes me back to a time when things seemed a lot simpler. Why does the past always seem less rushed, less materialistic, less everything but rich in memories? Maybe it's because we were young and lived with our own perception of what the world was. I mean when I was 5 years old my biggest concern was playing with Barbie dolls. When I became a teenager I was consumed with being an adult, making my own decisions and getting out on my own. Now that I'm on my own and have been for 18 years +, I long for the days of the less paced lifestyle. The time to sit and day dream of what the future holds. To put it plainly; just have a relaxed spirit. A spirit that can sit, think and ponder without the distraction of my mind rushing to the grocery list, the kids activities and let's not forget the guilt trips we take ourselves on daily.I say all this not in sadness, but in a posture of wanting to obtain this lifestyle again. Not to live in a memory, but to put my foot down and say, "No more!", I will not concede to what the world deems a successful person. The commercial that is and will be forever embedded in my brain is the one that shows a linen closet with neatly folded towels and then the camera pans out to a beautiful outside seashore and it says,"your kids won't remember the neatly folded towels in the linen closet..."
Just a thought...

Monday, June 25, 2007

Living with the Spirit of Accusation....

If you are a Christian and been around the church for any length of time, you have heard about "generational curses". If not, the term "generational curse" means that there are behaviors that seem to follow from say, your parents family to yours and from your parents family to theirs, etc. For example; your moms dad physically abused your mom, and your dad's dad physically abused his mom, etc. Most people want to stop that cycle as to not carry it to their family and into their kids family's. That is, if you are aware of the destructive behavior and sometimes the behavior isn't quite that overt. It may just be anger, which we can justify in our minds so we don't look at that as a destructive behavior. Their is a time for anger, but we are asked not to sin in the midst of our anger, and that can be hard to do.
During the church service yesterday, Tom was talking about, living with the spirit of accusation, something became more clear to me. I looked my generational stuff as an action that I needed to break, but it is a whole lot more than that. It is wanting to acknowledge, committing to prayer and putting before God the "Goliath" in my life or for most of us, the plural "Goliaths". You know in the bible that Goliath taunted and eventually wore down the his enemies. David on the other hand didn't listen to him and killed him with a stone.
So I guess what we need to keep in mind, if we want true freedom for ourselves and our families is this: Being open and trusting that our Lord will show us where the accusation in our lives began, when we came into agreement with the accusation. We then need to come against the accuser(satan) in our life with Gods truth, and when we finally do that our Lord will come and defend us and say to the enemy(satan), game over, you can no longer accuse because they know now the truth of who they are in Me.
I couldn't think of a better defense attorney than God.

Just a thought...

Monday, June 18, 2007

Standing Firm...

It says in the bible I believe about 35 times something pertaining to "standing firm". God doesn't seem all that interested in us..."taking ground". The bible does mention times when the Lord asks for us to take ground, but again He asks and has prepared the way for His plan to work for His Glory. I believe also out of His love and desire for the unsaved to know Him. It is in His mercy as well.
I think He is so interested in us standing firm, because in order to stand firm we need to trust in His truth and in Him. It is in these times that we have to get down on our knees and walk in His strength. It becomes, if you will, a battle between our flesh and His truth. For most of us, it is a battle of our head and heart. If you just have alot of head knowledge and haven't allowed to Lords love to permeate your heart, then often times we do, "what we think is right", not necessarily what Gods plan is. But in His great love for us, He understands our heart posture pertaining to our actions and that's where grace takes place.
So I ask you to go and spend some quiet time with the Lord and ask Him to bring about some revelation to these questions:
Is He asking you to stand firm or take ground? Are you in a spiritual battle? How can you bring glory to God in the midst of your situation?
I believe the Lord longs to have us hear Him and the bible says that we are to petition him endlessly until answered. So let's get persistent.

Just a thought....

Sunday, June 10, 2007

Head versus Heart...

Something I read over the past few months really made me stop, think and to dig deeper. For those of us who believe in God the question becomes this, do we really believe that He is all powerful, all knowing, just and sovereign? A few months back I would've said without a doubt yes. And like so many other Christians who believe in our heads things about God to be true, we have yet to let it sink into our hearts. You know REALLY believe it. I was faced with my head versus heart a while back when the war started. Now before I continue, I don't care to debate the War in Iraq because I think one can make a case for either side. When the war started I was all for it. I mean, the oppressed people, living conditions that are far beyond what I can imagine and senseless killing of men,women and children. Who wouldn't want to go save the day and help those people. And the little I saw in India with the impoverished families, I had a tiny glimpse into what the conditions where there.
It wasn't until as of late that I read something by Brennan Manning that tugged at my heart. The questions raised in my mind and by others warranted some bible quest and a one on one with God. Some of the things raised were, do you ever notice that there are no wars in the New testament? I for one never noticed that. Then I wondered, why is that? Then reading the New testament over and over I realized that the emphasis is on prayer, letting go of pride, our agendas, loving others and understanding that He provided us power over our sin and our enemies. He shows us that it's not by our strength but by His strength. It's not by our grace but by His grace given to us.
So my quest led me to thinking not so much whether the war was right or wrong but did we as Christians miss a great opportunity to let our God's power be shown. What would it say to the world if the president of the United States of America went on national television and said, "We as a nation will be praying and fasting for Iraq so that our God can display His will and power, not ours." vengeance is His says the Lord. I kind of feel like God sat up there and was saying, "hey you guys, why don't you ask me to help. I mean I really have a great plan for all this that will bring about the gospel and will glorify me. I mean the whole world is watching, this is a great opportunity to spread the gospel to all the nations." And in sense I felt like we said, that's ok God we got it. You step aside and we'll handle it our way. Prayer is highly undervalued in the Christian world today and looking back also in my own life, but it's never to late to change that.

Just a thought.....

Sunday, June 3, 2007

Rule of thumb for survival…

In any survival class one thing they teach is, “stay put” if you find that you’re lost. I find that is also the case, most times, in our Christian journey.
The idea behind staying put when you realize your lost is so that rescuers have a better chance of finding you. Think of it this way: If an ordinary business card represents the size of the search area within the first few hours, then a search mounted several hours later could be represented by an area the size of a newspaper!
How does this parallel with our Christian journey? In the scriptures the phrase,”stand firm” is said 35 times. In Matthew it is stated, “but he who stands firm to the end will be saved”. And in Luke it is stated,” By standing firm you will gain life”. This seems really important to God. It seems to be relevant to our survival. It’s like He’s giving us a strategy to overcome life’s battles. When the enemy comes if we don’t stand firm, the ground that we’ve taken can be taken back from us. Again, I think it comes to the fact that it’s by God’s strength not ours and by His power not ours.
I can’t count how many times I felt Him telling me to wait, “stand firm Georgi”, but I didn’t listen. Instead I run ahead trying to find my way only to fall down the mountain side. I have learned in my 9 years in this journey not to take that path of certain death or injury, and be patient in waiting on the Lord for the next move. I’m not successful every time but more often, or at least I catch myself before falling down the mountain side. I just know God was sitting there saying, ‘wait Georgi, it’s dangerous. You don’t know the terrain like I do.” But in my immaturity and adolescence in the Lord I couldn’t hear or thought I could do it myself.
I say all this in part because it’s not a popular concept to not do anything, but if we would sit, process and stand firm more often, I would venture to say there would be less broken relationships including the one with ourselves.
Just a thought…

Monday, May 28, 2007

A Hard Season....

Have you ever felt like you were in a desert season? I'm sure at one time or another we've all been there. I'm not entirley sure if that is where I'm at, or if it's the transition I'm in, or both. One thing for sure is that God's doing something.
How do we know if we are in a desert time or just a God working on us time? This is the quest I am on, not because it really matters if I put a label on it, but just because I think that if you know than you can withstand the storm, relativley speaking.
I mean, geez, my prayers are like water falling out of my mouth and spilling onto the floor! My ears to hear Him feel like they are plugged with cotton and my mind can't seem to be still enough to sit on one thought for more than a second. Frustration!
But, I know I need to stand firm in Gods truth, be steadfast in my prayers and much will be revealed to me at the end of this journey. Tom Flaherty said, God reveals things to us like a puzzle, God has the full picture on the box in front of Him, and we get to piece it together, piece by piece. Well, I have one of those pieces that is blank, but a very nessessary part to putting this puzzle together.
All I know for sure, is that I want to walk this out well, learn what the Lord wants me to learn and at the end of it all have a better idea of who my Father is.

Are you in a desert time or a transition time? What is the Lord saying, is He telling you to take ground or stand firm?

Just a thought...

Saturday, May 26, 2007

Women need other women...right?

As a woman and I think I speak for many of us, being friends with other women is hard! I have been in many womens groups or even just with a group of women and we all have our "war stories" of hurtful friendships. The wounds are deep. Thus we retreat behind our infinite wall we have built, brick by brick, wound by wound.
Well, I say no more! We all know in the depths of our soul, that we NEED each other. Otherwise, why would we continue to put our hearts out consistantly, knowing it could be wounded. I mean, if you burnt your hand on the stove, you wouldn't go a month later go and try it again, right?
God has designed women and also knows the power we have in each others lives. On the other hand, the enemy knows this as well and has done a great job keeping us separated. I've always said, "hurt or wounded people, hurt and wound people." If we can grasp the heart of our Father, and deal with the wounds of our past, we can then be in relationship with other women. We could look at their actions with compassion and pray for them and pray for ourselves to act how Jesus would. Usually what we do is repay evil with evil. I know, most of you are saying, "oh, I haven't done that". Maybe we don't do it outwardly, but we gossip and hold resentment and unforgivness in our heart, and we are lucky if that's all we do. Most of our issues have very little to do with anyone else and more to do with ourselves. It's usually our insecurities, lack of confidence and self hatred that cause us to react to someones' less than perfect actions. The closer we get to our Father the less of these issues we will have. Easier said than done, but it is possible.
Wouldn't it be great if we could give every woman we meet in our lives the same oppotunity for friendship we gave the people that wounded us. How about dealing with the bitterness and wounds of the past relationships, so we could walk in freedom.
So heres the challange: Spend the next month sitting at the feet of your Father, and ask Him to reveal Himself in a way you have never experienced. I guarentee the wounds will be less and our freedom will become more.
What do we have to lose? We have everything to gain.

Just a thought....

Thursday, May 24, 2007

Is the Lord leading us to home churches?

I've been hearing the buzz around....home churches. At first I thought, "wow, this could really go bad", and then a flashback of Waco came to my mind. So I thought, well since I have heard this idea a few times, I thought I should take this to the big man upstairs and see if this was on His radar.
After fighting my own opinions in my mind and getting down to praying, a peace came over me. A peace like you get from grandma's house on a fall night, with the smell of a roaring fire and hot apple pie. Ok, that isn't anything I have actually experienced first hand but I've seen it on TV and it does seem peaceful.
I believe the Lord longs for people to become more intimate with one another, to spur on a more intimate relationship with Himself. What a better way to make disciples, than to have a setting like a home. I mean seriously, that's how they did it in Jesus' time. One could argue, "well, that was back in those times." But there is something to that approach.
I have heard people say, " America is blessed". While that is true, it is a double edge sword. While we are blessed monetarily, material, freedom of expression etc, because we are so blessed it leaves little room for us to NEED or rely on God.
This warrants the question: Is God leading us to the home church, to bring about intimacy with others, that would lead us to a need and reliance on our Lord, which would allow us to view our abundance through His eyes, thus using it as He intended?

Just a thought....

Tuesday, May 22, 2007

Transition

Have you ever been in a place where you know God is "transitioning" you but you feel absolutely clueless? Well.... that's where I am! I decided to look up what that meant and thought it was interesting what Webster's said : a movement, development, or evolution from one form, stage, or style to another. As exciting as it always is to be molded by our Heavenly Father, it is always a painful process.
I've been saying for the past few months, that this is a "triple coupon year" with the Lord. Meaning, what we put into our relationship with the Lord, He will give back abundantly. He is inviting us into a deeper relationship with Him and if we will have faith and trust in Him, breakthrough's are bound to happen. Strongholds, generational junk and opposition that we have struggled with will be broken.
Someone said to me, "we can be in constant communion with the Lord, as Jesus was and still be effective", and quote unquote "normal". I do believe there is something to that , and is something that we as believers should really strive for. I mean think of it. Having your eyes and mind so set on our Heavenly Father. We couldn't help but be effective and truly have our paths straight.
So I don't know about you all, but my goal is to set my sights to my Father and see what happens. There is a Christian teaching that says that we can be to Heavenly minded to be any earthly good..... I don't believe that is possible.

Just a thought....

Tuesday, May 15, 2007

Mega church versus small group?

It seems the big buzz around the church is this: Is it Gods will that we have mega churches or small groups? I have done quite a bit of study, biblical and otherwise and I have come to this conclusion. We need both. One cannot survive without the other. I mean, without the Mega church there would be no small group. I can say with all honesty that I would've never went to someones home for a "church" meeting. That would've been far too scary and quite frankly it would've freaked me out. Thus the need for the mega church. It allows for people to come anonymously and God's big enough to do the rest.
Now, the small group plays a primary role for furthering our relationships with others and with our Heavenly Father. I believe that without the small group, we are can find ourselves vering off course and not even knowing it. Finding ourselves in compromise and walking away from that which we swore the day we got saved, that we would never turn our back on God. We all know though, just by reading about Peter that even those who were face to face, with our Lord Jesus Christ, turning our backs is a real possiblilty. Also, teaching that happens in a small group, unless those are in accountability with other people, could lead to a cult or at the very least a completely unsafe situtation.
I've said this before, Jesus gave the Sermon on the Mount for teaching purposes, thus the Sunday service. The real relationship was done with 12 disciples, thus the small group. Just like our intimacy with the Lord is done in our one on one time with Him, not with a huge group of people.
So, in my opinion we need to embrace both concepts, because they are both truely important to our relationship with our Heavenly Father.

Just a thought...

Georgianna Halverson